So the big news in the blogosphere today is that Academy Award winning actress, Anna Paquin, has announced she’s a bisexual. This, of course, is right on the tails of Ricky Martin’s announcement that he’s actually (wait for it, wait for it) gay.
Look, let me say right off the bat that I’m all for gay rights. I think the LGBT community should be able to get married, adopt kids, the whole she-bang bang. And I get that the more people “come out” of the closet, the more we bring complicated issues of sexuality and gender into the mainstream conversation, which hopefully leads to acceptance. Duly noted.
I guess I’m just bored of the conversation. Like with race and the presidency, I would like for us – as a nation – to frankly be better than this, that “issues” such as who one wants to shag & love, is in fact no big deal and is no one’s business.
Moreover, the idea of labeling our sexuality just seems ridiculous as a whole. For me, as long as it’s human and an adult, whatever you’re into, it’s go-time. Which is why, I guess, many are turning to the Greeks (because, um yeah, that’s who ya go to when you want to know the origins of pretty much anything to do with sex) for the term pansexuality.
Pansexuality (also referred to as pans), or omnisexuality is a sexual orientation, characterized by the potential for aesthetic attraction, romantic love, or sexual desire towards people, regardless of their gender identity or biological sex. Some pansexuals suggest that they are gender-blind; that gender and sex are insignificant or irrelevant in determining whether they will be sexually attracted to others. For others, an individual’s sex, gender expression,or gender identity can be a key factor of attraction, despite the pansexual individual’s wide range of sex and gender attractions.The word pansexual is derived from the Greek prefix pan-, meaning “all”. It is intended to negate the idea of two genders (as expressed by bi-). The adjective pansexual may also be applied to organizations or events. In this context, the term usually indicates an openness to the involvement of people of all genders and sexual orientations in said organization/event, as well as the pansexual sexual identity.
I know. Sounds kinda weird like that, but is it really? Truth be told, while the majority of time I’m into men, I will occasionally see a woman who I’d run over puppies to get to. And frankly, certain androgynous choice selections like k.d. lang (well, maybe 10 years ago) I find totally compelling as well. And the reason why I don’t worry about putting a label on it is because I see the inherent fluidity within sexuality.
That said, I know I make such declarations from the comfy seated privilege “throne” of legally sanctioned ‘heterosexuality’. Trust me, I’m more than willing to share. Really.
Anyway, so Anna Paquin likes hot dogs and hamburgers. Good for her. And psst…Ricky? We figured you out a loonngg time ago. I didn’t care then. I don’t care now. Be happy. Be safe. And let’s care about something beyond our neighbors’ bedrooms.