Because I can’t think of any other reason why your latest business report SUCKED.
Dear Ms. Mix & Bitch,
Well, I’ve DEFINITELY got a problem you’ve never had on your blog. I just moved to the DC area, and am working for an economic policy think tank with some conservative leanings. Around the same time I came aboard, my supervisor also started. She’s a smart cookie, and we get along well enough, but she has this habit of throwing her Christian faith around, and it makes me uncomfortable. An example would be if I express some frustration over part of a project, she’ll say “Well, I’ll pray for you to work it out, Cynthia” or if she catches someone gossiping she’s say, “I don’t think that’s something Jesus would say.” She says it in this half kidding/half serious way, but I know she’s dead serious. It doesn’t seem to bother anyone else, but it rubs me the wrong way. I may have a Lutheran background, but my conservative political leanings (hence the job) are from an economic – not a religious – standpoint. I love the work I do, but it kind of feels like Christian camp sometimes. So how do I express myself without ostracizing myself from the office culture – and more importantly, from the woman who decides my pay raises?
Wow, this is a sweet meatball you’ve thrown down center plate, Ms. Cyn (get the joke, “Cyn”…alright that was a bad one)…
Listen, I know I’m supposed to tell you to sit her down in a friendly manner and gently tell her the Jesus talk makes you a bit uncomfy. But I’ve gotta shoot straight her, for some reason my Super Spidey Advice Powers are sensing that’s not gonna fly very well here. Maybe if you were of a different faith, and if you’re office culture had a separation between church and state, so to speak, I would think you could do it. BUt my gut tells me this is how they Holy roll in your parts…so if you love the job, just try to get used to it. If speaking-in-tongues is the worst schtick your boss is selling, not so bad really.
Really. You could have much worse for a supervisor.
Probably not the answer you’re expecting, and I anticipate getting some annoyed bru-ha-ha over this one. But you seem to really love the work you’re doing, and you get along with your boss…sometimes you need to pick your battles.
One caveat: if someone joins the team that is Jewish or Muslim or Pagan (now THAT would be a fun question to get!) then that would be a great opportunity to say something like, “Hmm maybe we should all cut back on bringing our faith into office discussions…we wouldn’t want to make [insert name] uncomfortable.” Kinda of the weeny way around it, but I think most traditional offices are the ultimate weeny roast, so sue me.
Let me know what you decide to do…and thanks for the thought provoking question!
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