Dear Ms. Mix & Bitch,
I’m a 25-year-old graduate student in the DC area (just like you!). I recently met a guy through my program. He’s gorgeous, smart, and very sweet. We went out on one date so far, and we really clicked! Then, one of my friends in the program says he is Baha’i, some new religion which is kinda like a cult. I looked it up on the Internet and it looks pretty innocuous to me: one God, no religious faction divisions within the groups, lots of different ethnic varieties within it. But my friend told me it’s a religion of Iranian descent and has ties to Middle East extreme factions. I’d like to ask Arash (that’s the great guy in question) about all this, but he’s of Persian descent and I don’t want to offend him. I’m torn between thinking my friend’s concerns are bullshit to wondering if there’s a grain of truth to what she says. Can you help me out here?
Signed, Wendy from Washington
Symbol of the Baha’i Faith.
Well, I can’t claim to be a Baha’i expert, but from all the research I did, there’s not a shred of evidence to support your “friend’s” suspicions. In fact, the religion, while “new” (it was founded about a century ago) has accomplished what many others have not: preaching love and peace, true diversity and global unity – without lots of internal division and infighting – probably because they claim that since there’s only one God, then all religions speak truth. Something our Judeo-Christian faiths cannot come close to claiming. What it sounds like to me is that your friend has a case of Bush fever – linking anything from the Arab world as inherently suspect and potentially evil (unless it’s a Saudi selling some oil, but I digress). Which is as racist and as narrow-minded as it comes.
I think it’s perfectly alright to ask Arash about his faith. It’s all in the way you ask. Here’s some examples:
Wendy: I hear you are part of the Baha’i community, and I don’t know a lot about it. Could you tell me about it?
Arash: I sure would – you sexy, open-minded vixen you.
Wendy: So I hear your Baha’i faith has ties to Arab extremist groups, maybe even Al-Qaeda itself! What are you thinking being part of a terrorist organization!
Arash: Okay you racist American you…this date – and any chance for a friendship – is officially over. Bye bitch.
One more thing…I don’t know where you are at in terms of what you want (just looking to date around or actually looking for Mr. Right)…but if the answer is the latter, I think you need to ask yourself if you will consider someone from a different faith as a potential life partner. If your own religion is very important to you and you are not open to an interfaith marriage, then don’t waste each other’s time. That said, the Universe works in some funky strange ways, and I can’t even count how many times I’ve heard someone say “Wow, so-and-so is TOTALLY not my type or who I thought I’d end up with, but here I am, and I am deliriously happy!”
Good luck :-)
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