I know I’m setting myself up for some ridicule by asking this question, but for me it’s a real problem, and I need your help.
I recently met a man that I’m crazy about, which doesn’t happen very often for me. He’s sweet and funny, has a good job, and even volunteers at an animal shelter on the weekends (that’s how we met). We went out once and it was an almost perfect evening. I say “almost” because I found out he’s a cat person. In fact, he says he has four cats. While I love animals in general, I’m really a dog person, and to tell you the truth, cat people weird me out. The fact that this guy has four cats REALLY weirds me out.
After we went out, he called me the next day to ask me out again. I told him I was going out of town for a conference (which is actually true), so he told me to call him when I get back so we could make plans. While I was away, I thought a lot about this, and I’m still torn. I really do like him, and I know I sound like a jerk, but the cat thing really bothers me. My ex husband – who was a louse – was also a cat person, but I don’t think this has anything to do with it. I just don’t trust cat people. What should I do?
Signed, Dodging in Dogtown
Dear Dame Doggie,
If it’s going to sound as if I’m being rough on you, it’s because I am. And I am going to make this short as well.
Unless you were attacked by a rabid band of cats when you were a defenseless child, using the excuse that you won’t go out with a great guy because he likes cats is as lame as it comes. Really. And you know that, don’t you?
Men who like and care for animals are almost as high on my list as men who genuinely like hanging out with their kids. Both are more rare than those deceptive men’s fragrance ads would have you believe. Now, I’m not saying that this is your dream man, but how are you going to know otherwise after just one date?
Oh and BTW, the fact that you don’t trust men with cats has EVERYTHING to do with your ex husband. But lumping all Y chromosomed, kitty kat Jacks together as the nebulus evil force in the dating world is just completely self defeating and dumb. Give this guy a chance…and even more importantly, give YOURSELF the chance to be happy with someone besides your slobbery, four legged friends.
What have you got to lose but a night out?